Parenting, a time of change and challenge
For every bit of excitement that comes with becoming a parent there is also a stressor.
Will you be a good parent?
Will the baby be healthy?
Will the birth go well?
The unknowns can be daunting. It’s OK to give yourself a minute to panic as you run through all the questions you have in your head but limit it to just one minute. Now it’s time to move on from the questions and prepare your life for that little person who is sure to be your pride and joy.
Childproof your rooms
If you are a person with a disability, your home is likely already set up to accommodate your needs, but not necessarily those of your child. The good news is, the basics of preparing the nursery and childproofing are the same for everyone. Bumpers, gates, safety latches and switch covers are items you’ll need to install. However, there may be a few extra precautions needed depending on your home’s configuration. If you have dangerous items, such as medications and household cleaners in lower cabinets or drawers within your reach, consider moving them to a room or cabinet with a physical lock to guarantee safety. You may also want to consider adaptive products to meet your specific needs in caring for your newborn. Take time to research the products that will work best for you and ensure you and your child's safety.
Understanding your rights
Building a support system is important for any new parent but finding other parents who are in the same circumstances might be challenging depending on where you live. It can be difficult for others to understand the financial and legal complexities those with disabilities face. Advocate for yourself and your family by knowing your rights. Responsibility for the health and welfare of your child begins before they are born and continues long after.
It is impossible to foresee every scenario that you might face but knowing which are most likely will help you navigate the situation better. It is also a good idea to scout the facility where you or your significant other plan to give birth. Your obstetrician (OB) is likely aware of your disability status if you are the one giving birth, but it never hurts to ask questions about how they handle labor and delivery. You will likely beat your OB to the hospital, and it will be helpful if you already know what to expect.
If you aren’t the one giving birth, it is a good idea to ensure the facility is equipped to meet your needs, so you can participate in the birth. This may mean providing access to a larger delivery room or auxiliary aids.
Don’t forget about you
Being wrapped up in all things baby is perfectly normal. Nearly everyone in your circle will be focused on your bundle of joy, whether it is the sex or the due date or the color of the nursery. It’s easy to forget that preparations are hard work and adjusting to having an infant in the home is harder. The baby will rely on you for round-the-clock care, so you will need to be healthy both mentally and physically. Whether you are taking time out to exercise, meditate or just hanging out with friends, it’s important that you don’t feel guilty about it.
It can be hard for many parents to take time away from their children at any age, but it is important that you do. Set time in your schedule that is specifically for you to make sure you are practicing good self-care while caring for your new baby. Be patient with yourself as you not only develop a new routine but learn what works best for you both.
Becoming a parent means that you’ll have to cope with stress, especially if it is your first child. Preparing your home and daily surroundings is important to both you and your child's safety. Knowing your rights as a parent can also help you navigate common circumstances that might be unfamiliar to you as a new parent. Whatever you do, though, don’t forget to care for yourself as you welcome the new addition to your family.
Submitted by Richard Wright from Elderscorp - thanks Richard!
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